Finances & Relationships

It’s a good thing to be in a relationship, especially a healthy one. Everyone wants to be happy, and when one finds such happiness in a relationship, then one should grab the opportunity. Every relationship is marked by certain moments of challenges. In some cases, it could be as a result of infidelity; at other times, it could be as a result of subjugation. One of the partners may even be suffering from delusions of grandeur.

Nevertheless, one of the major causes of problems in relationships is money. As an individual, it’s possible that you have picked some fights with your partner over how or why they spent certain money. It could be the case that they want to purchase a house or car worth $500,000 when the family yearly income is just a little above $60,000. One of you may be hiding your spending from the other.

Don’t panic, you are not the only one facing the ugly situation. Even those that are single often face a similar situation, maybe not with a partner but with a parent or sibling. Despite the fact that you and your partners share certain common qualities, especially intimacy, you may not share the same money habits, goals, and values. Although, you may share debts and other financial challenges. 

The following tips will help you handle your finances and relationships more effectively…

1. Discuss financial goals and values with your partner

Remember when you were single? You probably always loved to eat outside, purchase the newest electronic gadget, or buy the most expensive outfit. This isn’t bad. However, your status has changed now and you need to make some little adjustments. Part of it is to talk about finances with your partner. As the team that you are, you need to talk about your future – your financial goals and how you can collaborate to achieve them.

To start with, each of you can talk about aspects of your family life that will require money. Some of them may include buying a house, taking care of your kids’ education, buying a car, going on a vacation, funds for emergency situations (such as accident, sickness, etc.), acquiring smart home appliances, clothes, among others. Definitely, both of you will want different things. However, the goal is to reach a compromise.

After creating the list, you should then arrange them in order of importance. Whatever you consider the most important, you must give a good reason to support your conclusion. This tells your partner that you show great concern towards their desires. Always seek a win-win solution. Otherwise, you can compromise in such a way that happiness is gotten by the two parties.

2. Learn about your partner’s money habits

Money habits are usually a reflection of one’s upbringing. It is important that you glean information on your partner’s way of handling money and the current state of finances. This also includes their debt profile, savings goals, and retirement plans. Some financial planners recommend that you consider having a look at your partner’s credit report. Through this, you get a clue about their outstanding debts, loans, and credit card accounts. 

Upon confirmation, you may be put off by the revelation. It could be the case that your partner has a huge debt profile and it scared the hell out of you. You shouldn’t panic at this stage. Beyond having some debts, your greatest concern should be what your partner is doing to pay off the debts and fix other financial issues. 

3. Be open and honest about money

In many relationships, trust issues are common, especially when money is involved. When your partner lies about money, it becomes financial infidelity. This can result in more financial problems, stress, unhappiness, and, consequently, your life gets impacted negatively. When this gets to a stage where your partner can no longer cope with it, they may file for divorce, and this brings an end to the relationship.

There is a possibility that your partner is being dishonest with you in terms of their financial state. Here are some indicators to look out for: credit cards are being declined; you no longer notice any bills in the mail; your partner is now afraid to talk about money; among other things. As the team that you are, rather than blame your partner, you can always bear each other’s burden, help out where and when necessary, as well as encourage each other. The goal is to be happy together.

Nevertheless, you have to position yourself in such a way that your partner feels comfortable in telling you about their struggles with money. 

4. Set spending limits for each other

Spending limits are not limitations. Rather, they help you to stay on track in regards to your budget. Depending on your financial state, you can set your limit as you and your partner find it comfortable. The limits could be on a weekly or monthly basis. For instance, you and your partner can agree that neither of you will spend more than $200 every week. The moment you reach your spending limit before the week runs out, you know that all you have left to spend is your time.

Discuss this with your partner during your financial meetings. Remember communication is an important aspect of every relationship, including marriage. 

5. Learn ways through which you can improve your financial situation

How comfortable are you with your present financial state? If you are not, then you need to put on your learning cap. There are different ways through which you and your partner can empower yourselves to improve your financial situation. You can read financial blogs and books; listen to podcasts on finance, budget, and saving; attend workshops, either physically or virtually, among others things.

Through these means, you get exposed to different pieces of financial advice that can help your current financial situation. You also get to know about people who passed through the same situation and how they were able to break through the challenges. 

6. Periodically review your financial plan and goals

Financial meetings do not end with the first meeting where you initiated certain plans and goals. They should be held at regular intervals, which may be weekly or monthly, for necessary appraisal. The reality is this, the fact that you now both share the same financial value and goal does not rule out the possibility of one of you falling short in their financial responsibilities. 

To avoid missing out on payments, have a weekly meeting where you review your accounts along with your spending plan. They also help you to discover the new items that will be included in your budget or the ones you have to expunge, aspects where you are having some challenges, the level of progress you have made on your debts, among other things. Avoid overlooking this important aspect.


Managing both finances and relationships is not usually fun and can be challenging. However, it is crucial to maintaining a healthy, long-lasting relationship. This means that love is not the only factor that determines a healthy and lasting relationship – money also does. Money doesn’t have to be the basis for the end of your relationship. The earlier you are able to pay attention to money, the better and healthier for your relationship.

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Wealthy Habits

Becoming wealthy is very easy, especially with motivational speakers sharing their sugar-laced experiences. But have you ever wondered why only about one percent of the world’s population remains wealthy despite the number of books on financial success and wealth creation? You might have even taken some finance classes and still wander in the darkroom of confusion.

It is common to think that certain people became wealthy by providence or sheer luck. This is not completely true, though a little luck helps sometimes. Apart from those who inherited family wealth, wealth is made with a great deal of commitment, hard work, and consistency. Beyond these qualities, there are certain sets of habits that are specific to wealthy people, especially those that built their wealth from scratch. These habits work like a magic wand in generating wealth. 

Early Risers

You may be wondering how waking up early can contribute to success. Well, you may have to examine the lives of Larry Schultz, Tim Cook, and Richard Branson, for instance. There is a difference between waking up early to rush out for work and waking up at least three hours before work to have enough time for reflection. 

Wealthy people wake up early to meditate or write in a journal, read educational content, or get a head start on an important project. Some get good exercise or have a healthy breakfast. The goal is the same: to be proactive in setting the tone for the day. Note that wealthy people do not make email checking their top priority in the morning. They rather leave it for later in the day.

Specific Goals

Wealthy people are goal-driven. Rather than make a wish, wealthy people only set goals for themselves. In fact, poor people set the goal to become wealthy but the major challenge – unknown to them – is the “how.” Wealthy people set specific goals and know what they need to do to achieve them. 

Such goals might include accumulating a certain monetary worth within a certain number of years, partnering with a particular company, or even selling their company for a specified amount. Whatever goal they set helps to guide their actions, prioritize their activities, as well as streamline their decisions. A clear vision of one’s goal is enough motivator that can drive one to success.

Daily To-Do List

It becomes almost impossible to become wealthy if you do not know what needs to be done and be committed to doing them. According to Thomas Corley, a goal is a broader term and needs to be broken down into a list of tasks that can be completed daily. This is a common habit among wealthy people. 

Research indicates that a significant percentage of wealthy people write a detailed to-do list as well as follow it through. Irrespective of the cost involved, they don’t procrastinate. In fact, they continue to mutter “Do it now!” in their minds, especially when the thought of putting off sets in. They don’t stop until the task gets done or completed. Notwithstanding, they may be unable to complete all their to-do lists every day. Nevertheless, they complete a minimum of 70% of their daily tasks.

Daily Exercise

The most common excuse by the common people is that they have no time to work out. This is not the same with wealthy people. Despite the fact that they have the least amount of free time, they understand the importance of staying healthy and fit. Even with a whole lot of wealth, they are aware that their health has no price tag. To them, daily exercise is a regular habit. With that, they get the vitality to handle whatever challenges life throws at them. According to a study report by Author Thomas Corley, 76% of wealthy folks do aerobic exercise on a minimum of four days every week.

Healthy Diet

Feeding your moneymaking brain with fad diets and Twinkies will only leave it in low gear. It is common knowledge that a large portion of less-affluent people are less concerned about their diet and overall health. This may be a result of income and geography. Notwithstanding, the cost of having a healthy diet is not as expensive as portrayed. 

Wealthy people treat food like the fuel it is – they consume the right foods, avoid junk food and snacks as much as possible, and spend more on healthy foods. Their meals are structured so that they take a count of their calorie intake. They eat a healthy diet to live longer, thus giving them more opportunities to earn more.

Read Daily for Self-Improvement

A popular quote by Joseph Addison states thus: “Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.” Just like exercise, poor people do not take book reading seriously. The great number of books in the world today leaves a wealth of knowledge untapped, if unread. Wealthy people understand this and are willing to nourish their minds with enough information that can help them improve their skills and knowledge. Even if on transit and cannot read, they do not hesitate to listen to audiobooks.

Value Time

Generally, wealthy people regard time as money and time misspent as money lost. In other words, wealthy people see time as highly valuable and wouldn’t waste a bit of it, especially on unproductive activities, such as reading celebrities’ posts on social media or watching TV. Yeah, you saw that – watching TV! Wealthy people do not get relief in shutting off their brains in front of the TV. 

Elon Musk, for instance, spends a whopping 80-100 hours every week on productive activities such as exercising, reading, or learning something new. Rather than waste their time on nonproductive activities, they rather engage in things about which they are passionate, such as hobbies. Asking yourself how much money you would lose by engaging in activities that don’t produce money will help redirect your focus on productive tasks.

Build Relationships

Wealthy people understand the value of building relationships, especially the ones that revolve around their businesses. That is one of the reasons wealthy people will always be friends with one another. They build relationships with those who share similar minds or ideas with them. It is commonsensical that the relationship they build will impact their success-achievement goal. This kind of relationship can be built in many ways – at a conference, online webinar, or just over coffee. They may not necessarily be wealthy; however, they should possess the potential and drive to become wealthy. 

One other reason why wealthy people build relationships is to help them overcome the fear of speaking in public – a common fear among humans, irrespective of their social or financial status. They thus meet and engage someone new every day to build the confidence they need to address larger groups.

They Have Mentors

Many wealthy people have attributed their success to their mentors. It is not the case that their mentors have a direct impact on their wealth accumulation story. Rather, mentors keep them accountable and help them accelerate their speed of success achievement. Usually, mentors are people that have accumulated enough insights and experiences that can help their mentees cut learning time in half.

Key Takeaways

It is common to think that certain people became wealthy by providence or sheer luck. This is not completely true, though a little luck helps sometimes. There are many things that go into creating that ideal lifestyle and becoming wealthy. Incorporating growth tactics and throwing out the unproductive habits that currently keep you shackled to your not-so-ideal lifestyle will be a game changer for sure.

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